The “I’m not worth it” scar is a hard one. You have been wounded deeply by an important person in your early life who indicated to you that you weren’t valuable to them. That is very sad. But a really large part of the problem has much more to do with them than you. You were a young child when this was communicated to you. You needed that person or those people to come through for you. They didn’t do it. In fact, it seems that they weren’t able to do what was needed to care for you in the ways you needed at that early part of your life to help you feel that you were valuable.The I'm not worth it scar is a hard one. You have been wounded deeply by an important person early in life who indicated that you weren't valuable to them. That is very sad. Actually, the problem has much more to do with them than you. Click To Tweet
The process of maturing leads us to seek out truth. What lies have we believed? What is the truth? Do you have value?
What a great sadness, there is no question. But part of maturing is to learn where you have believed lies and where the truth lies. On a simply human level, the truth is, you are valuable as a human simply because you were created in GOD’s image. You have intrinsic value…whether you do anything amazing or not. An infant, who is totally dependent on others to be cared for, is unable to do anything, yet she is still valuable for this very reason.
But now you are at whatever age. For some reason, you don’t believe you are valuable. You don’t think you have value. On some level, you have felt like you were too much trouble to people during your life; or you didn’t think you were valuable to those around you.
What does GOD think about you in terms of your value?
But now, on another level, let me talk to you about the Creator, GOD, the One who created humans in His image. After the Fall, when sin and death entered that perfect world He had created and ruined that open relationship He and humans had had with Him. He knew He wanted to make a way to bridge the gap, the huge gap, in that relationship. Only He could do it!
It needed to satisfy His perfect justice, righteousness, holiness, love, mercy and grace. From our perspective, it seemed impossible. But He did it. He sent His Son, Jesus (the second member of the Godhead) as the infinite GOD/man. He was fully GOD and fully man.
Only He could bridge the gap. He was able to live a perfect life here on earth as a human for 33 years. As GOD, He was able to pay for an infinite number of sins when He died on the cross.
The requirement that blood had to be shed to pay for sin, happened at the cross. Yes, it happened on a smaller scale with the sacrifices of animals over the years. But they were a substitute for the real thing. When Jesus came, He was the real thing. He died for us by spilling blood. Gory? Absolutely! It gives us a clue as to how awful our sin actually is, doesn’t it?
We commit our life to Jesus and repent of our sin, asking Him to forgive us for our sin and intending to change the direction of our life.
Now we can go to Jesus and commit ourselves to Him as well as ask His forgiveness for the sin we have committed over the years. He will forgive. He will extend grace to us. He offers us the gift of forgiveness. We are valuable to Him. We are so valuable that He died for us.
He adopts you into His family. In reality, you may still struggle with feeling valuable. But the logical part of you will know that you ARE valuable. You won’t always feel it. But that doesn’t alter the truth. As time goes by, you will know it is true in your gut as you remember what He did for you; as you remind yourself of the truth of the Gospel; as you remember your value as a person, created in the image of GOD!
But when Christ appeared as a high priest of the good things that have come,
then through the greater and more perfect tent (not made with hands, that is, not of this creation)
he entered once for all into the holy places,
not by means of the blood of goats and calves but by means of his own blood,
thus securing an eternal redemption.
For if the blood of goats and bulls, and the sprinkling of defiled persons with the ashes of a heifer, sanctify for the purification of the flesh,
how much more will the blood of Christ,
who through the eternal Spirit offered himself without blemish to God,
purify our conscience from dead works to serve the living God.
Therefore he is the mediator of a new covenant,
so that those who are called may receive the promised eternal inheritance,
since a death has occurred that redeems them from the transgressions
committed under the first covenant.
Indeed, under the law almost everything is purified with blood,
and without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness of sins.
Hebrews 9:11-15, 22 ESV
Call to Action: Are you a daughter or an orphan? Remind yourself of the truth of the Gospel. You are valuable enough for Jesus to die for you and want a relationship with you. You have intrinsic value and a human being made in the image of GOD. Remind yourself of some of the Scripture verses we have reviewed in this series already that help you in this regard.
Are you just learning about Christ’s love for you? Have you made this step to commit your life to Christ and receive His forgiveness? This is the time you can pray to GOD and ask for it.